These things indicate your husband is very selfish.
Is your husband selfish or is he just having a tough time of late?
You might be able to dismiss some of his behaviors, especially if they’re one-offs. After all, every relationship, and every individual, goes through rough patches at some point – this is natural.
But when things become a habit and start to affect how you feel about yourself and your marriage, it’s time to question how selfish your husband is.
If you’re wondering if your spouse is selfish, we’ve got some key signs to look for.
1. He always has to be right.
If your husband is adamant that he’s right about everything, it reeks of selfishness!
Thinking you are always right and not being able to admit when you are wrong is very immature behavior.
He might also refuse to accept anyone else’s opinions or be very critical of views that don’t completely align with his.
This is a sign that he’s slightly narcissistic and self-interested, which are also aspects of a selfish personality.
2. He’s only interested in himself.
This might sound obvious, but your husband is selfish if he is only interested in himself.
What does that mean? Well, you might start to realize that he doesn’t take an interest in anything to do with you and your life outside the relationship.
Maybe your conversations tend to revolve around what he gets up to and what his hobbies are.
If he doesn’t give much attention or consideration to what your day was like, what you enjoy doing, or what you are thinking or feeling, he’s certainly quite selfish.
3. He has to be in charge all the time.
Have you ever noticed that your husband is a bit of a control freak?
Maybe you’re picking up on that fact now because he is becoming very domineering and needs to be in control of everything all the time.
He might make all the decisions like where you eat, or what friends you both hang out with.
It can be nice sometimes to have someone who takes the lead so that you don’t need to worry about anything, but, this can go too far.
If his need for control has gotten out of hand, you’ve got a selfish husband on your hands.
4. He never apologizes.
A key feature of selfish behavior is not apologizing. Is your husband so caught up in himself that he never says sorry?
Of course, nobody wants to be with a doormat who apologizes constantly, even when they don’t need to. But being with someone so selfish that they can’t see that they’re upsetting you is also horrific.
It’s unfair to be made to feel desperate for wanting an apology, but a lot of selfish people leave you feeling this way.
Your husband may well love you, but, if he doesn’t care enough to say sorry when he’s upset you, he is selfish. End of.
5. He doesn’t make an effort with you.
In every relationship, there are expectations – some realistic and some definitely unrealistic.
Wanting some attention and affection from your husband? Totally realistic!
If you feel like he doesn’t make an effort with you (whether that’s spending quality time with you, planning date nights, or just being there for you), your husband is selfish and self-centered.
6. He doesn’t communicate properly.
Communication is key in any relationship, we all know that! If your husband isn’t making an effort to communicate openly and honestly with you, he’s being very selfish and isn’t actively taking part in a functional, healthy relationship.
7. He has no manners.
Selfish people don’t really give much thought to what’s going on around them, as we all know.
That can often manifest in them having bad or non-existent manners. Maybe they don’t say please or thank you, maybe they speak over you and dominate the conversation all the time.
Either way, if you’re looking for a sign of a selfish husband, this is definitely an easy one to spot!
8. He always makes you come to him after a fight.
Do you feel like you’re the one who always says sorry, or always goes to him after an argument?
Sometimes, this is okay. If you’re the one in the wrong, it can make sense that you be humble, approach your partner, and try to mend bridges after you’ve fought.
However, this shouldn’t be the case every single time – especially if they are the ones who caused the argument or who have done something wrong.
Your husband is selfish if he makes you come to him every time – he doesn’t care enough about your feelings to put them above his own, and doesn’t value you in the way he should.
9. He’s heavily critical.
Being selfish often means ignoring someone’s feelings or refusing to acknowledge them if they don’t match up with what you want.
If your husband is constantly putting you down, he is being selfish by ignoring how that will make you feel.
It’s natural and normal to hurt your partner’s feelings at some point – we have all done it, whether we like to admit it or not.
However, if you feel like his criticisms are becoming too much of a habit and he’s not making the effort to apologize or understand why this may upset you, he is acting selfishly.
10. He doesn’t compliment you.
We can’t expect our partner to lavish us with praise and attention all the time, however much we might want that!
Most relationships operate under some kind of balance – some compliments, some affection, some just being.
If your partner never compliments you, he’s being selfish by not understanding how this could be affecting your self-esteem.
Again, you can’t expect someone to compliment everything about you every day, but, if you’ve made an effort to dress up or gone out of your way to do something nice for him, your husband should show his appreciation or admiration.
He doesn’t need to worship you; he just needs to show he cares.
11. He’s selfish in bed.
This is a self-explanatory one, let’s be honest. If your husband is selfish in bed, he’s selfish in life.
You might have noticed a shift in the bedroom recently, one where he no longer makes an effort to make you feel good, or that he’s focused on himself and what he wants.
Being selfish physically can be difficult physically, but it also means you may be left feeling emotionally vulnerable or lonely – which is obviously very unfair on you.
12. He’s not open to ideas.
Many selfish people are so fixated on how they feel and what they want that they are very closed off to other people’s suggestions.
If he shuts down your ideas or doesn’t really let you have an opinion, you’re dealing with a selfish husband.
It’s so frustrating when someone just doesn’t listen to you, especially if you know that what you’re saying is right.
Your feelings and opinions are valid and, while he doesn’t need to agree with everything you say, your husband should be open to hearing your thoughts.
13. He’s very distant from you.
Now, we understand that some people are more introverted or quiet, but, there are some people who actively choose to withdraw from their partner for selfish reasons.
It is completely normal, and healthy, to have alone time in your relationship – we all need our space sometimes!
However, if your partner is constantly pulling away from you, you’re going to start wondering if you’ve done something wrong, if he’s got feelings for someone else, if he’s no longer in love with you, etc.
This kind of behavior can be very selfish because it makes you question your relationship and your worth.
