These things indicate a one-sided relationship.
Sometimes you may know deep down that you are in a one-sided relationship, but admitting it to yourself and deciding what to do is the toughest part of it all.
If its less clear in your mind that this is the situation you face, here are the signs that you are definitely involved in such an unbalanced relationship.
1. You initiate most communication.
You are the one who makes the phone calls, sends the text messages, and makes the effort to get together. If you don’t instigate things, you’ll go days without hearing from them. You can count on one hand the times that your partner initiated a conversation with you.
2. Your partner chooses their friends over you.
If your partner wants to go out with friends, they don’t invite you to come along. If you ask your partner to hang out with you and your friends, they reject the offer. It seems as though your partner prefers their friends to you.
3. Your partner ignores relationship problems.
You are the only one who tries to talk about the issues that you are experiencing together in your relationship. Your partner rolls their eyes and gets irritated with you for bringing it up again. They prefer to ignore the problems you are facing.
4. Your partner doesn’t care about you.
If you get the feeling that your partner doesn’t care about you, you are probably right. If you are in a one-sided relationship, your significant other does not care about making you happy. They don’t ask about your day or listen to your stories. Instead, the only thing you do talk about (when you actually talk) is your partners life.
5. You constantly worry the relationship is falling apart.
You are stressed all of the time because you are worried that your relationship is about to be over. This might be because you are considering ending it or because you’re not sure your partner cares enough and could break things off between you at any moment.
6. Your partner offers you no emotional support.
When you are going through a tough time in other areas of your life, your partner isn’t there for you. They don’t try to comfort you physically, they don’t want to listen to your woes, and they don’t try to cheer you up.
7. You make excuses for them to your friends and family.
It is obvious to those around you that your partner doesn’t treat you as well as they should. But rather than accept the criticisms of your partner, you find yourself defending them and making excuses for them.
8. You put in all of the effort when it comes to physical touch and affection.
You need and enjoy physical affection but have to do all of the work to initiate it and keep it a feature of your relationship. You go in for the hugs, you take their hand in yours, you instigate bedroom romance. If it weren’t for you, the two of you would barely ever touch.
9. You’re starting to feel unlovable.
The longer your relationship carries on with your partner not pulling their weight, the more it affects your self-esteem. You are beginning to think that you must be unworthy of love because you put in all this effort and get nothing back.
10. The bad times outweigh the good times.
There are some good times in your relationship. You and your partner still sometimes have fun or express care toward each other. But these times are few and far between. The bad times far outweigh the good. Yet you stay in the relationship in the hope that this balance will one day shift.
11. You take on a lot of the blame for your relationships problems.
Whenever conflict arises between you and your partner, you find yourself taking a lot of the blame and apologizing more than you ought to. Your partner never sees things from your perspective and refuses to accept any responsibility for the role they play in the issues you face.
12. You want to change them.
Though you love your partner, you cant help but wish they’d change. You find yourself dreaming of a time when they behave in the ways you’d like them to. You don’t want to control them; you just want them to be a better partner to you.
13. You take on all the day-to-day duties.
If you live together, you have assumed the role of housekeeper. Not by choice but because your partner either expects you to or is content to live in a filthy mess. You also cook, organize bill payments, and generally make sure everything runs smoothly.
14. Your partner doesn’t fulfill your needs.
Everyone has needs – physical, emotional, spiritual, and other. But your needs are rarely fulfilled by your partner. They barely make an effort of any sort to keep you happy. They either don’t realize what your needs are, or they simply aren’t interested.
15. Your partner refuses to work and relies on you financially.
For whatever reason, some people just don’t want to work. If your partner isn’t working and isn’t putting much effort into finding a job, you might be paying for everything from your own income. This puts a lot of stress on your shoulders.
16. You feel too invested to leave.
You might suspect that your relationship is unbalanced and unhealthy but are so invested in it that you feel unable or unwilling to end things. You put up with a lot more than you should rather than face being single again.
17. You are always trying to avoid triggering their anger or irritation.
You have to walk on eggshells around your partner because they have anger issues or get irritated whenever you raise concerns with them. You may put on a mask and pretend to feel or think a certain way in order to appease them.
18. Your partner doesn’t really know you.
Regardless of how long you have been with your partner, they never really took the time or made the effort to get to know the real you. You know them well but they don’t know your likes, dislikes, history, or anything else for that matter.
19. Your bend to your partners wishes all of the time.
Relationships involve a bit of give and take. Only your relationship doesn’t. Your partner likes to get their own way and will use forms of manipulation such as emotional blackmail to get it. You make an unhealthy level of sacrifice just to keep them happy.
20. They don’t follow through on plans and promises.
Your partner may talk the talk but they rarely walk the walk. They don’t follow through on plans you’ve made together and they break the promises they make almost every time. So much so, in fact, that you don’t believe half of what they say anymore.
21. They openly flirt with other people.
You take your relationship far more seriously than your partner does. One way this shows is that they flirt with other people all the time. Its a clear sign that they don’t respect you as a person or value the relationship you have together.
