15 ways to tell if he likes you, even if he’s not showing it.
Do you have a soft spot for a certain guy?
Do you suspect he likes you back, but you’re not entirely sure?
You’re not the only one…
Human beings are incredibly complex creatures, and we can sometimes have a pretty hard time reading each other’s signals.
There are all kinds of reasons why a guy may be nervous about making a move.
Whatever it is, here are a few signs to look out for that show that he’s hiding or repressing his feelings as a result of his fear.
1. He acts differently around you.
If he likes you, you’ll notice it in the way he behaves around you. It will be quite different to how he acts with other female friends or colleagues.
If he turns on the charm, it’s quite likely that he isn’t scared of his feelings, but is simply biding his time and allowing them to develop.
But if he’s anxious about the situation, he’s likely to show signs of nervousness when he’s around you.
For example, he may suddenly go very quiet or struggle to get his words out. Or he might go in the opposite direction and talk very quickly and at great length to avoid awkward silences.
2. If you’re friends, his behavior has changed.
Is he a good friend of yours?
It’s always awkward when you develop romantic feelings for somebody you thought was safely in the friend zone, and you have to be a very good actor to not let the change in your feelings show.
Did you used to have an affectionate relationship, with friendly hugs and other platonic physical contact?
Have these stopped or become less frequent or warm?
If he’s suddenly being more formal and distant, it could be a sign that he’s worried about giving his feelings away and is trying to act ‘normally.’
Of course, it is anything but normal if you’re used to him acting one way and he now acts differently.
3. You catch him looking.
Catching him staring at you is one of the simplest but biggest giveaways that there are feelings bubbling underneath the surface.
After all, when you fancy someone, you can’t help but watch and admire them whenever they are nearby.
But if you return his gaze, he’ll look away. He is scared of revealing his feelings for you by maintaining eye contact.
4. He makes jokes about liking you.
If it’s rejection that he’s scared of rather than, say, commitment, he’ll want to figure out how you feel before asking you out.
Guys will often do this by making some kind of jokey comment about liking you or the two of you going on a date…
…but they do it in such a way that if you react badly, they can just laugh it off. They can pretend they didn’t mean it and spare their egos any lasting damage.
If your reaction is encouraging, after doing this a few times he might eventually feel confident enough to ask you out or tell you how he feels.
5. You’re always bumping into him.
If he’s trying to figure out whether or not the feeling’s mutual, he’s probably going to find creative ways to spend time with you in order to do just that.
If he’s scared of rejection, he’s going to want to spend enough time in your company to figure out what your response would be if he did pluck up the courage to ask you on a date.
He’ll be drawn to you, so he’ll probably end up at a lot of the same social events.
If you’re colleagues, he might end up grabbing a cup of coffee at the same time as you more often than could be chalked up to coincidence.
6. When you’re together, it’s amazing.
If things have gone beyond making eyes at each other and you’re already spending time together, whether they’re official dates or not, you’re probably getting mixed signals from him.
You have a wonderful time together and you get on like a house on fire, but you don’t really text each other or have much contact in between times.
That’s a sign that he can’t help but let his guard down when he’s with you, but fear takes over when you’re not there and he convinces himself he doesn’t actually like you that much (or that you don’t like him in that way).
7. He blows hot and cold.
Whether there’s nothing going on between you at all or you’ve been on a few dates, he’s probably going to have ups and downs if he’s feeling the fear.
One minute he’ll be staring at you lovingly, and the next he’ll have convinced himself that it’s all wrong or got a bit overwhelmed and suddenly become all distant.
8. He seems to get jealous.
He’s probably not going to admit it, as that would lead to an awkward conversation, but you might have noticed that his demeanor and body language changes when he sees you talking to another guy.
He might go a bit red, grit his teeth, or stare at you without even realizing what he’s doing.
That’s because, fear aside, he can’t help liking you.
He is unable to keep his jealousy in check, as he is almost as scared of you getting together with someone else as he is of his feelings.
9. He tries to impress you.
Because he likes you, he wants you to like him back. And to get you to like him, he tries his hardest to make a good impression on you.
He may dress nicely whenever he sees you, or wear aftershave in a subtle attempt to get your attention.
He may also show off in front of you. Whether it’s a physical skill he is good at or a demonstration of his intelligence, he wants you to be suitably impressed by him.
Of course, he may also play up and do immature or downright stupid things if he thinks you’ll notice him for it.
He can deny it all he likes, but he does these things for you and because of you.
10. He’s very available where you’re concerned.
We’ve already mentioned that he wants to spend as much time with you as he can, and another way he does that is by making himself available whenever you are also free.
Perhaps you ask if any of your colleagues want to go for a drink after work one Friday – his arm is the first to go up.
Or if he is in your group of friends, does it always seem like he confirms he is interested in doing something not long after you’ve said you are? As soon as he knows you’ll be at an event, he’s damn sure not going to miss it.
11. He seems to know a lot about you.
Somehow, this guy seems to know a lot about you, your likes and dislikes, your past, and your business.
You may be taken aback by something he says or does that shows just how much information he has about you locked away in that mind of his.
There are two possibilities here. On the one hand, he may just be committing everything you say or do to memory. He may listen and take note of even the tiniest little thing you mention or others have mentioned about you.
On the other, he may have actively asked others about you. He does this because he is too afraid to ask you himself, so he gets the lowdown from your close friends or other shared acquaintances.
12. He never mentions other women.
Since this guy likes you more than a friend, there’s no way in hell he wants you to think for even a second that he is interested in someone else.
He will avoid all confusion on that front by never mentioning any other women to you. He won’t talk about other girls in your mutual friendship group for fear of making you think he likes them, not you.
If he bumps into another girl in the park or at a bar, he won’t bring it up in conversation. He only has eyes for you.
He may even go so far as to casually let slip in conversation that he’s single. You know, just in case you thought otherwise.
13. He’s eager to help you out whenever he can.
If there’s ever anything you need help with, you can rest assured this guy will be at the front of the queue to lend a hand.
He wants to come across as helpful and reliable. He wants to communicate to you that you can count on him, no matter what it is or how much it involves. He may believe that these are qualities you are looking for in a partner.
Of course, helping you has the added benefit of being able to spend even more time around you. Even if you need someone to help you move home, he’ll be more than happy to lug your stuff up and down stairs if it means he can chat to you a little as he does it.
14. He’s very supportive of you.
He may not be able to express his true feelings for you, but he reveals everything in the way he shows you support.
If there is a discussion or debate happening, he almost always sides with you. He agrees with the points you make or defends what you’ve said if it is challenged by someone else.
And even if he can’t agree with you, he will defend your right to have a different opinion if a discussion in your friendship group ever gets heated.
Beyond supporting your views, he will also be supportive of you in whatever you happen to be doing, or want to do. He’ll wish you well in your exams or for a job interview you have coming up. He’ll show enthusiasm for your goals and encourage you to pursue your dreams.
He wants to make you feel positive and confident because this will rub off on how you feel about him… or so he hopes.
15. You just know.
Listen to your instinct.
If everything about the way you interact is screaming at you that he likes you, he probably does. It’s hard to hide our feelings for any length of time.
Make sure you’re entirely honest with yourself. Admit whether you just want it to be true and are inventing signs where there aren’t any, or you genuinely are getting the vibes from him.
