11 Blunt Reasons You Can't Stop Thinking About Him

Why can’t you get him off your mind?

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We all know that feeling of just not being able to stop thinking about a guy.

They fill your thoughts all day, every day, from the moment you wake up in the morning to the moment you drift off to sleep.

It can be pretty inconvenient, right?

After all, if you can’t stop thinking about him, it can be tough to keep your head in the game.

It can make you forgetful, and mean you start neglecting your work, friends, and family.

It can mean you’re constantly distracted and disengaged from what you’re trying to do.

But if you’re here, reading this, then you’re probably not sure what it is that’s got him running round in your head all day, and you’re looking for an explanation.

And you probably want to do something to stop yourself thinking about him quite so often, or at all.

Keep reading to find out what the reason behind your current obsession with this guy might be.

1. You’re in love.

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Let’s kick off with this one, because it’s the simplest explanation of them all. Maybe you’re just in love with him.

Maybe things are going well between you and you think, or know, he loves you back. Or maybe, sadly, your love is unrequited. Either way, if he’s stuck in your head, it might be love.

When we first fall in love, our hormones go more than a little bit crazy. You get a hit of dopamine every time you see him, hear from him, or even just remember what he said to you last night.

Being in the first throes of love can be all-consuming and mean you just can’t focus on anything else.

2. You’re infatuated.

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Okay, so maybe it’s not quite as serious as love. We don’t have to be in love with a guy to think about him 24/7. It might be more like an infatuation.

Maybe you’re dreaming of him, even though you know things between you could never actually work and you’re not really taking him seriously.

He’s at the center of your thoughts, but you know deep down that there’s no deep connection there.

3. You’re lusting after him.

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This might just all be about the physical act.

Maybe you’ve been intimate with him and can’t stop thinking about getting intimate with him again, or maybe you just really fancy him and are constantly trying to imagine what it would be like.

This can happen even if you really don’t like his personality and know there could never be anything between you.

He might really get on your nerves, or you might find him rude, or hate his politics. But there’s something about the way he looks or moves that really does it for you.

4. You’re lusting in general.

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It might not be that there’s anything particularly special about this guy that has you lusting after him.

It might be that you’re feeling frisky in general, for all kinds of reasons, and that this guy just happens to be the one who’s caught your eye (or imagination!)

5. You’re engaged in escapism.

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Romance is a great distractor. Dreaming of a romantic tryst has been a way for humans to indulge in a bit of escapism since the beginning of time.

So, perhaps the fact that you can’t stop thinking about him hasn’t actually got that much to do with him.

Maybe what’s really going on here is that there’s some stuff you need to deal with in your personal or professional life and you’re trying to avoid facing it head on by filling your mind with thoughts of this guy.

Perhaps you’re just a little bored with the way your life is at the moment, and thoughts of him are the escapism you’re craving.

6. You’re idealizing him.

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You might be spending all this time dreaming about a guy that doesn’t actually exist. He might be taking up all your thoughts because you’ve totally idealized him.

Maybe he’s a great guy in real life, but maybe he’s not that much to write home about. Maybe you’ve only met him a couple of times, or just spoken to him once in your local café.

But in your mind, you’ve built him up so much that it now seems like he’s the perfect guy. You don’t really know that much about him, but you’ve convinced yourself that he’s funny, kind, caring, outgoing, would make a great dad…

So, you’re becoming a bit obsessed with an idea of him, but you don’t know how accurate that idea actually is.

7. You’re dreaming about a hypothetical future, not focusing on the now.

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The fact that you can’t stop thinking about him might be down to your focus on what the future could look like if things were to work out between you.

You’re dreaming about what life could be like a few years down the line, rather than being realistic about whether things could really work between you right now.

8. You’re confused by the signs he’s giving you.

A woman with long, wavy hair and a white shirt leans on a pillow, looking pensive and worried. She gazes into the distance, her expression showing concern. Soft lighting fills the room, creating a calm yet somber atmosphere.

Maybe your head isn’t full of happy dreams of him and a potential future. Maybe you can’t stop thinking about him because you’re worried about how he’s behaving toward you, or where you really stand.

He’s blowing hot and cold, and you’re spending all your time trying to analyze his comments or read his body language, trying to figure out what’s going on in his head.

9. You’re feeling insecure.

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Maybe you’ve been seeing this guy for a little while now, but he’s not giving you the reassurance you need.

Perhaps you feel like you could develop some serious feelings for this guy, but you can’t just relax and go with the flow because you’re not sure how he feels about you.

Or maybe you’re just feeling insecure in general and focusing your thoughts on this guy is a kind of avoidance tactic, so that you don’t have to address your insecurities.

10. You’re weighing up the pros and cons.

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This guy might be on your mind all the time because you’re trying to figure out whether he’s really worth it.

You’re not entirely sure how you feel about him, or whether your relationship would work.

You’re spending all your time trying to figure out whether you should give this relationship a chance.

11. He’s made it clear that there’s no future between you.

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We humans can be pretty perverse creatures, and we have a terrible habit of wanting exactly what we can’t have.

So it could be that you can’t stop thinking about him now because he’s ended things with you, or it’s become pretty clear that he doesn’t see a future with you.

Maybe you really liked him, or maybe you weren’t really that bothered, but now he’s cut things off, he’s the only thing you can think about.