12 Signs You've Become That "Crazy" Girlfriend (Or Boyfriend)

How do you know if you’re being crazy in a relationship?

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Isn’t love supposed to make you crazy? When does a relationship move from infatuation to a place where your actions are becoming questionable?

When you’re in a relationship that you desperately want to work, love can make you feel all sorts of emotions. It can be easy to lose perspective and start making decisions while exhibiting behavior you’d never have thought you’d ever find yourself doing.

What it feels like to be “crazy” in a relationship.

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Crazy in love is when all rationality goes out the window. Your relationship has gone from loving infatuation to worrying obsession, and your behavior is turning toxic and pushing your partner away. Have a look at the list below to see if any of these examples sound like they could be you:

1. You want to be with your partner 24/7.

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You don’t see why you should ever be apart. But just because you’re in love doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still have time for yourself. Let your partner have some space.

2. Small issues quickly escalate into arguments.

A man sits beside a woman on a brown leather couch, gently placing his hand on her shoulder in a comforting manner. The woman looks pensive, staring ahead, dressed in a polka dot dress. The scene is set in a cozy room with a wooden background.

You’re overly sensitive and emotional, making it hard for your partner to communicate with you.

3. You’re constantly in contact with your partner.

A man with short brown hair, wearing a white t-shirt, stands in a kitchen holding a smartphone. He looks thoughtfully to the side. The kitchen has white cabinets, shelves, and a cup of coffee on the countertop.

You’re so worried about the idea of your partner cheating that you can’t let them have time alone.

4. You stalk their social media.

A man and woman are sitting at a table near a window, having a conversation. The man gestures with his hands, while the woman looks at him, holding a phone. On the table are two mugs, a plate with cookies, and a plate with toast and jam.

Not only that, but you check their phone or emails, because you’ve lost all respect for your partner’s boundaries.

5. You constantly need reassurance that your partner wants to be with you.

A woman sits on a chair with a frustrated expression and hand gesture while talking to a man seated nearby, who is facing her. The man has a beard and is wearing a yellow shirt. They are in a bright room with a window and plants in the background.

You can’t trust that they are happy with you, and you’re driving them away and making them crazy by always questioning your relationship.

6. You’re jealous of everyone.

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You’re suspicious of anyone your partner meets because you are convinced they’re going to leave you.

7. You isolate your partner from their friends and family.

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Your need for you and your partner to spend all of your time together is isolating them from their friends and family.

8. You want to control them/buy them.

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You try everything to keep your partner with you, even if it’s manipulative or toxic.

9. You use emotional blackmail on them.

A man with a beard and short hair is sitting on a couch, comforting a woman with long brown hair who seems distressed. The woman has her eyes closed and is resting her forehead on her hand while the man has his arm around her shoulders. They both are wearing casual clothes.

You’re guilt-tripping your partner into spending more time with you or taking your relationship further too fast to try to keep them with you.

10. You won’t let them talk about their past before you.

A man and woman are sitting in bed with their backs against a blue headboard. The man is reading a business newspaper, glancing at the woman, who is looking down with a thoughtful expression while holding a tablet. They are both wearing white shirts.

Your insecurities about your relationship mean that you can’t acknowledge your partner’s life before you even though it’s made them who they are.

11. You’re always the one at the center of the drama.

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If there always seems to be drama when you’re around, have you considered that you’re at the root of it all?

12. You make plans about the future too quickly and pressure the relationship to move too fast.

A man and woman are sitting on a bed with a blue headboard. The man, dressed in a grey t-shirt and plaid pants, is feeding the woman, who is wearing a light green camisole. A breakfast tray with croissants, fruits, and glasses of juice is placed on the bed.

You’re desperate to make your relationship work so you’re rushing it to get serious even if your partner isn’t ready for that yet.

Finally…

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If you recognize these signs in yourself, it’s time to accept you’ve lost sense of what’s normal and you no longer respect your partner’s boundaries and individual needs. You’re letting your negative emotions and intrusive thoughts get the better of you and, unless you act, your relationship will fall apart.

You want your relationship to work so badly that you’re putting too much pressure on it rather than enjoying the present moment. All in all, you’re making your partner feel uncomfortable and want to distance themselves from you, which in turn, makes the whole situation worse.

Jealousy, low self-esteem, previous bad relationships, and a fear of losing what you have may be playing a role.

To stop things from going too far, you need to acknowledge that your behavior isn’t healthy or enjoyable for your or your partner. Then you can start working on yourself and the insecurities driving you to micromanage and tear apart your relationship.