12 Signs Your Wife Might Be About To Leave You

Is your wife about to leave you?

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Are you worried that your wife may be getting ready to leave you? That she’s fallen out of love with you and is preparing to hand you divorce papers? Here are 12 signs that may indicate that’s exactly what’s about to happen.

1. She doesn’t ask to spend time together.

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In the past, she may have asked when you were going to watch a movie with her, whether you were going to be home in time for dinner, or if you wanted to go antique shopping on the weekend. But now she doesn’t seem to care if you’re available or not.

2. There is no intimacy between you anymore.

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It’s been a long time since you two last went at it between the sheets, but there’s little other physical intimacy either. There are no goodnight kisses or morning hugs. She doesn’t reach for your arm when walking outside, no casual touches when you pass each other, and she may have initiated sleeping separately.

3. She’s been “decluttering”.

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She has been going through all the drawers and closets and either getting rid of things that she feels are cluttering the place up, or packing up special things so they “don’t get damaged”. In reality, she’s setting aside the things she wants to take with her when she leaves.

4. There are unexplained expenses accruing.

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You may see purchases from your joint account that she hasn’t explained, or less money in there than you had expected. This may indicate that she has put money into a separate bank account in preparation for leaving or has been buying essential supplies for her new life.

5. She doesn’t ask how you or your family members are doing.

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It’s likely that she used to check in with you regularly to see how you’re doing and whether you need anything. She would also ask how your parents, siblings, and extended family members are faring, but she hasn’t asked anything of the sort in known memory. She just doesn’t care.

6. She doesn’t remind you of important things.

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You may have gotten frustrated with her in the past because she was always nagging you about important dates to remember, such as family birthdays and get-togethers, healthcare appointments, bill deadlines, and so on. Now, you miss those dates because she isn’t constantly reminding you about them like she’s your personal calendar assistant.

7. She doesn’t ask for your “help”.

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Many men see housework as “helping” their wives—as if it’s their responsibility—and they get irritable if they’re presented with a list of domestic tasks that need doing. Well, she can’t be bothered to ask you for assistance anymore, so she’s either doing it all herself, or it’s being left undone.

8. There are unexplained absences or disruptions to her regular routine.

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She may be an hour late coming home from her regular yoga class with no explanation as to why, or she has more “healthcare” appointments than usual. These absences or disruptions may point to her meeting with a divorce attorney, looking at potential apartments, or meeting up with another lover.

9. She has new interests and pursuits that she has never shown interest in before.

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Has she changed dramatically across the board into someone completely different? That’s often a sign that she’s met someone else and is taking steps to change in order to suit the new pairing. Clues may include a change in musical tastes, personal aesthetics (hair color and wardrobe overhaul), life ideology, and so on.

10. She’s spending most of her time with her friends and family.

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Women tend to have stronger social bonds than men. If your wife is spending more time with her friends and family members than she’s spending at home, that may be a sign that she’s strengthening her connections with them because she’ll need to lean on them once she leaves you.

11. She doesn’t discuss future plans (and cancels current ones).

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If she’s been talking for years about wanting to renovate the kitchen or to go on a European vacation, and suddenly stops, or if she cancels travel plans with the excuse that it’s better to save money instead, that’s a sign that she isn’t planning any kind of future with you.

12. She doesn’t argue with you anymore.

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The two of you may have bickered and argued about any number of things, from the right way to load the dishwasher to what foods are appropriate for the kids, but now she doesn’t argue with you about anything. She simply doesn’t care enough to do so anymore. She’s done.