If You See These 14 Things In Your Man, Marry Him

1. You picture him in the big moments.

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Think about the future and ask yourself whether you see him there beside you. This is the advice most commonly given when someone wants to know whether their man is the one.

You want to think forward to the big moments you might share – buying your first house together, the birth of your children (should you choose to have them), the day you retire – and have a smile on your face when you imagine them there with you.

But also ensure that his vision for your shared future is similar to yours, especially on the big things that you can’t really compromise on. Your vision of the future can change, and so can his. But by starting off from a similar place, you should be able to handle a little bit of divergence later on in life.

2. You’d get along great if you were just friends.

A young man and woman are doing laundry together. The man is jokingly holding a shirt towards the woman, while she sits on a washing machine holding clothes. They both laugh and smile in a light, playful moment against a tiled wall background.

A relationship is more than just a physical attraction, some romance, and a feeling of love. Sure, those things play an important part in the success of a relationship, but there has to be something else.

One way to know if this is the case with you and your man is to consider how you’d get along if the two of you were just friends. Would you be able to enjoy each other’s company in a platonic sense?

This doesn’t mean that you have to have all the same interests and hobbies as them; it simply means that you could spend time together and enjoy yourselves as two people who have no romantic interest in each other.

This shows compatibility beyond the hormonal cocktail that is your brain in love. It shows that your relationship goes deeper than mere physical attraction.

3. You’re happy to live a boring life with him.

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You know he’s the one you should marry when you don’t resist the realities of day-to-day living. Let’s face it, life can be dull sometimes and your relationship won’t always be full of excitement and laughter. It can’t all be romance and big gestures of love.

But you go into the future knowing this and embracing the fact that, despite all the rather tedious stuff you have to deal with, you get to spend your life alongside someone who makes everything a little more colorful.

A settled, family life with this man doesn’t scare you (whether that family involves children, pets, or just extended family and friends). You want to live the boring life with them so that you can enjoy all the fun bits that punctuate this boredom.

4. He’s not hard work.

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Whilst rough patches happen to the best of couples, a relationship shouldn’t feel like hard work. It may be hard at times, but for the most part you and your partner should go through life together in relative ease in terms of your relationship.

Other things in life may be difficult, and they may bleed into your relationship from time to time, but if you have thus far managed to enjoy a relatively happy relationship without lots of conflict, it’s a good sign.

A key indicator of this is that you don’t spend much of your time together in an emotionally charged atmosphere. Things may get heated at times, but they cool back down and you go about life on an even level, emotionally speaking.

5. He makes a great teammate.

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You and your partner bring different qualities to the relationship and form a team that can tackle big things together. Your strengths and weakness seem to fit well with his strengths and weakness, like different jigsaw pieces coming together to reveal an image. In this case, the image is of a happy and healthy relationship.

When you get flustered by something, he remains calm. When he forgets where something is, you help him find it. Where he is great at big ideas, you are great at planning and organization.

You balance each other out well, forming a unit that is more capable and more resilient than either of you are by yourselves.

6. He’s the first person you share news with, good or bad.

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When something good or bad happens in your life, who is the first person you message or ring? If he is “The One”, it should almost always be him that you contact before anyone else.

It shows that you have the closest and strongest connection with him. You want to celebrate with him when things go well. You turn to him for support when something bad happens.

Of course, it can sometimes depend on context. If something interesting happens at work, you might want to share it with a colleague who happens to not be working that day. That’s natural because you and they share a work-related bond that you don’t share with your partner.

But when it comes to the big stuff or the personal stuff, your partner is number one on your contact list.

7. He makes you feel more independent.

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As odd as it may sound, since being in a relationship with this man, you feel more independent than ever. You have a newfound confidence in yourself by virtue of being in a loving, supportive relationship.

You know that you can face challenges alone and take care of yourself, whilst being grateful that you no longer have to. You know that, at the end of the day, you can come home to your man, and this inspires you to venture out of your comfort zone from time to time.

This is very different to being in a codependent relationship where your lives revolve around each other entirely, and your very reason for living is based upon that relationship.

8. He’s a source of energy for you (not a drain).

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Depending where you sit on the introvert-extrovert scale, you will either find socializing a draining exercise or an invigorating one.

But when it comes down to spending time just the two of you, you feel more energized by it, or at the very least you don’t feel drained by it.

For the introverts out there, you are able to be with this man and not feel like you have to take the next day off entirely by yourself.

For the extroverts among you, you get enough mental and social stimulation from him that you feel pumped and motivated about life.

Yours and his energy needs compliment each other. This is vital if you are to marry him and spend the rest of your lives together.

9. You accept him as he is (and vice versa).

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There may be things about your partner that you find annoying, but you aren’t out to change them into a version of themselves that you could happily spend the rest of your life with.

You have to be happy and willing to spend the rest of your life with the man he is today.

Yes, you can talk about little annoyances and see if there is a way that he might work on them, but your future together cannot be dependent on him making those changes.

And he must feel the same about you. He shouldn’t be trying to change who you are at your core. Again, he might raise some things he gets irritated by and you might try to avoid doing them, but he knows who you are at this moment in time and accepts you entirely.

10. He doesn’t suffocate you.

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You feel close to this man and you want him to be a part of your life, but you respect his need to do certain things by himself and he does the same for you.

This is a healthy way to approach those differences you are bound to have. You understand that you are separate entities that are choosing to come together to form a relationship. You are not becoming one person with one identity.

You don’t resent him for wanting to do things without you, and vice versa. You are not clingy and insistent that you tag along wherever he goes. You give each other the space you need to express your own individuality.

And you respect that you each need time by yourself sometimes. As much as you like to spend time as a couple, you value your alone time too.

11. He’s everything you didn’t know you needed.

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This sort of man ticks boxes for you that you didn’t even know existed. He has shown you what it means to be in a deeply loving relationship and has raised your expectations for what that looks like.

And you might not even be able to put your finger on exactly what those boxes or qualities are half the time. You just know that he is better suited to you than any man who has come before.

This is about as close to an explanation as you can get of that feeling some people say they have when they say they “know” that their partner is the one for them.

12. You could have an amicable separation with him.

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It might seem strange to end this list talking about separation or divorce, but it’s wise to accept the possibility that things may change, life may throw curveballs your way, and your relationship or marriage may not go the distance.

If you truly believe that you could have children with this person and yet still co-parent in a healthy and responsible way after separating, it’s a good sign that this relationship deserves to be given every chance.

You can go into it hoping that you stay together forever, safe in the knowledge that if that doesn’t come to pass, you could respectfully deal with one another regarding the parts of your life that can’t be separated.