12 Qualities Of People Who Always Seem To Keep It Together

Nurture these qualities if you want to keep it all together.

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You’ve likely come across various people in your life who always seem to keep it together, rather than scrambling around like scattered, headless chickens. Although they may have come from different backgrounds, it’s likely that they’ve all shared several of the following traits:

1. They remain present.

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Many people manage to keep it all together because they remain utterly present at all times. They don’t allow their minds or emotions to spiral out into “what ifs” about the future, because they aren’t there yet: they’re right here, right now, and will deal with tomorrow when it arrives.

2. They listen—and pause—before they speak.

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A lot of folks seem to feel that there’s some need to respond (and speak) very quickly. As a result, they don’t listen as deeply as they could because they’re champing at the bit to reply. Those who have it together listen carefully, and pause to consider their words before speaking them.

3. They make use of calendars and scheduling.

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Every well-organized person you know uses some sort of calendar system to keep themselves on schedule. They’ll use printed planners or apps to keep track of—and remind them of—appointments, deadlines, social functions, and anything else that’s important for them to remember.

4. They engage in some type of meditation.

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Most grounded, well-organized people do some form of meditation on a regular basis. Some might start and end their days with yoga sessions, others may journal after their evening bath or do guided meditations out in nature. Essentially, they make a habit of calming and centering their mind, body, and spirit.

5. They don’t jump to conclusions.

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Instead of jumping to conclusions based on piecemeal evidence or gossip, they do their research to get to the reality of an issue, and then decide how they feel about it (and how they’re going to deal with it) accordingly. All of this is done with calm, detached rationality.

6. They troubleshoot potential issues ahead of time.

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They’ll take the time to anticipate all the things that could potentially go wrong and create contingencies for them. By doing so, they’re rarely caught off guard and are prepared for just about any situation that may unfold. This makes them appear effortlessly capable, and utterly kept together.

7. They remain stoic in the face of emotive circumstances.

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One main trait you might have noticed in people who seem to keep it all together is that they’re never overcome by their emotions. They keep them tightly reined in, remaining calm and neutral in even the most dire circumstances, and they release those emotions in private, on their own terms.

8. They know when and how to delegate.

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They’ve learned that not only is it impossible for them to do everything themselves, but some people will have better skills in various areas than they do. As such, they know the importance of delegating tasks and aren’t afraid to relinquish control to achieve a better outcome.

9. They remain focused.

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Another of the key traits you may see in those who keep it together is their ability to focus on whatever they’re doing. Whether they’re working, reading, or doing a hobby, they immerse themselves completely in that activity without allowing themselves to be distracted.

10. They draw from personal experience—primarily their mistakes.

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Although most people try to avoid mistakes or discomfort as much as possible, those missteps offer the greatest amount of wisdom one can accrue. If a person seems to have it all together, they’ve likely erred countless times and learned from each mistake so they know how to avoid repeating them.

11. They physically “dress the part”.

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Just like dressing for theatrical roles, the clothes we wear every day will influence how we behave. Those who have it all together tend to dress in a manner that makes them seem capable and confident. As such, they’ll often cultivate a sense of style that suits the image they’re aiming to portray.

12. They are self-disciplined.

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They do what must be done, even if they’d rather do something else or there’s some discomfort associated with doing so. Duty and obligation take precedence over amusement, and the integrity these people exude by sticking to their word and taking care of problems makes others sit up and take notice.