People Who Don't Take Crap From Anyone Usually Display These 10 Traits

People with these traits have no time for others’ crap.

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People are full of crap sometimes, and they’ll use that crap to their advantage in various ways. They might seek to avoid responsibility by blaming others, they might try to justify their poor behavior, they may even manipulate or abuse others with it. But some people don’t take crap from anyone, and those people will share most of the following traits.

1. They have clear, strong boundaries.

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A strong boundary clearly shows the line that cannot be stepped over. This healthy habit is not just a trait of someone who doesn’t take crap from anyone, but it’s a necessary part of protecting your space. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you don’t want them to treat you badly, then you have to know where your lines are, and enforce them.

2. They use assertive communication.

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Assertive is not the same as aggressive. Aggressiveness is confrontation with the idea of looking for a fight. Assertiveness is expressing your needs and desires confidently. The assertive person expresses themselves clearly, standing up for what they believe in. Some may interpret this as aggression, but there is a difference in the vibe of making a demand versus making a statement.

3. They have high self-respect.

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A person who doesn’t take crap from anyone understands what they are worth and will not compromise on that matter. They respect themselves and expect others to treat them with the same level of respect they have for themselves. That deep sense of self-worth and self-respect makes it easier for them to shrug off negative opinions and walk away from mistreatment.

4. They have a strong sense of confidence.

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Confident people don’t feel the need to seek validation from others. They trust their judgment, perspective, and ability to carry them through their decisions. That confidence serves as a shield from the manipulation and disrespect that other people may show them. They don’t need the external validation, so they don’t seek it by accepting bad behavior from people they want acceptance from.

5. They are emotionally intelligent.

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Emotional intelligence matters because there is a difference between being attacked and being criticized. They can understand the difference and accept criticism while not allowing themselves to be undermined or manipulated. They don’t react impulsively or aggressively, but rather with consideration and assertiveness to protect their space. Emotionally intelligent people know that knee-jerk reactions tend to cause more problems.

6. They are independent.

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An independent, self-sufficient person isn’t reliant on other people to meet their needs. An emotionally independent person understands that they can enforce boundaries or walk away from people who are not treating them well. They don’t fear being alone nor are they reliant on other people to meet their more tangible needs. The strength to walk away from what is wrong makes space for what is right.

7. They are decisive.

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They make firm decisions and stick to them. Because they don’t have to accept crap from other people, they are able to make decisions that are right for them and their well-being. Due to their emotional intelligence, they know they are going to make wrong decisions sometimes, but they are confident in their ability to adapt and overcome. They know that they can make a different decision to pivot from the previous decision they made.

8. They refuse to people-please.

They don’t feel obligated to make everyone else happy. They prioritize their well-being and won’t lightly sacrifice their needs or values to please others or avoid conflict. Instead, they know exactly where they stand with their clear boundaries, and they won’t budge from what is important to them. People-pleasers are often looking for external validation. People who don’t take crap from anyone don’t need external validation.

9. They are emotionally resilient.

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Confident people who don’t take crap from others typically have a thick skin. As a result, insults and attacks from other people don’t affect them as much. Even if those attacks do sting, it doesn’t take them long to get over it because they have a strong understanding of who they are. They may take that information, look for any validity to it, and then use or discard it accordingly.

10. They are selective with their time and energy.

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One must be selective with their time and energy, otherwise other people will steal it all away. There’s only 24 hours in a day, and these people understand they don’t get the time back they waste. They say “no” when it’s necessary, draw a hard lines on when and if they will do something, and cut out people who waste their time. Furthermore, this allows them to dedicate more of their time and energy to things that matter.