10 Bold Moves Single Women Should Make To Attract The Right Kind Of Love

It’s better to attract the right ones by doing the following things.

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Let’s face it, the current dating world can be incredibly complicated and frustrating. From trying to figure out which dating app or website to use and crafting the perfect profile to get matches, to encountering people who are only looking for hookups or a “situationship,” finding love can feel like navigating your way through a labyrinth.

Sometimes, in order to find the right partner, you have to take matters into your own hands. Here are 12 empowering moves that you can use to help you find the right person.

1. Pour time and effort into yourself first.

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The first and arguably the most important step in attracting the right person into your life is to work on becoming the best version of yourself. When you invest your time and energy into your personal growth through hobbies, fitness, education, or in the workplace, it will demonstrate to potential partners that you are well-rounded, independent, and confident in who you are.

2. Be crystal clear about what type of relationship you’re looking for.

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Setting and keeping boundaries is crucial in any type of relationship, but especially in romantic ones. If you know exactly what kind of partnership you want, be direct about it. Sending mixed messages in order to make the other person happy will not only attract the wrong kind of attention, you’ll also be playing yourself in the process.

3. Push past your anxieties and insecurities.

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If you’re nervous about putting yourself out into the dating scene, you’re not alone. But at the same time, Mr. or Ms. Right isn’t going to fall from the sky and into your lap. So, whether it’s choosing to go to a party instead of staying at home, or signing up for a new fitness class you’ve been wanting to try, go for it. You never know what might happen—or who you might meet!

4. Be honest about where you see yourself and a potential partner in the future.

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When you picture your future self, do you imagine yourself getting married and starting a family, or rising to the top in your career? Either way, it wouldn’t make sense to be with a partner whose life goals conflict with yours. Transparency fosters trust, and by being honest about your goals early on, you will attract like-minded people who are on the same page as you.

5. Trust your intuition to guide you.

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You may have heard the phrase “go with your gut” before, but it holds more truth than you think. Your intuition can be a powerful guide in relationships by helping you determine your compatibility with a partner and recognizing any red flags in them. So, if you feel like something is wrong, or if they’re the person for you, listen to that feeling…because you’re probably right.

6. Be assertive about your needs.

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Sometimes we tend to accept whatever kind of affection we can get because it’s what we think we deserve. This is far from the truth. In order to avoid this, come up with a list of “non-negotiables” in a partner and stick to them. Not only will it prevent you from arguments or a breakup if the both of you aren’t in alignment, but it will also allow you to know your worth and not settle for less.

7. Be open to more adventure in dating.

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Is there something you’ve always wanted to try but never had the courage to do? If a potential partner gives you the opportunity to step outside of your comfort zone, take that leap. An adventurous spirit often attracts like-minded individuals looking for a thrill, which can lead to the creation of a more profound and lasting bond.

8. Practice and project self-confidence.

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Sometimes the best way to attract the right person for you is to just simply be yourself. It may sound cheesy, but there is some weight to it—people are more attracted to those who are comfortable in their skin and secure in who they are. If you carry yourself like the prize you are, you will be seen as a prize to potential partners.

9. Take a genuine interest in the other person rather than feeling you have to sell yourself.

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It’s no secret that a key aspect of any successful relationship is healthy communication, but it’s just as important to remember that communication goes both ways. By taking the backseat in a conversation and really listening to what they have to say, you not only show the other person that you have genuine interest in them, but it also helps you to build a deeper connection with each other.

10. Surround yourself with supportive people.

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You may not believe it at first, but your friends have more of an influence on your life—especially your dating life—than you think. By focusing on building a strong support system, you set the standard for the type of romantic relationships you’re willing to accept. Plus, your friends could also set you up with someone who may end up being “the one!”