People who thrive on drama frequently display these 12 behaviors

Drama kings and queens engage in these behaviors regularly.

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Some people just can’t seem to enjoy peace and harmony: they always need to be dealing with some type of dramatic, emotional rollercoaster or they don’t know what to do with themselves. When things get too chill, they usually have to stir the pot using the following behaviors, in order to get back to their drama-filled comfort zones.

1. They’re quick to take anything that anyone says as “offensive”.

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People who thrive on drama are usually emotionally volatile: they’ll take offense over just about anything, or make wild accusations without any basis in reality. In essence, they’re just looking for something to get upset about, and if there isn’t anything actually happening, they’ll damned well make it happen.

2. They interfere in the lives of others.

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They seek to control others and invest themselves in others’ lives and drama because they have no control over their own. Basically, their life might be a hot dumpster fire, but instead of sorting themselves out, they’ll interfere in other people’s business and tell them what they should do to fix themselves.

3. They have no idea who they really are.

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These people often don’t know what they really like, or what’s important to them. They go along with whatever is trending in the moment, and have no discernible personality, nor a sense of real purpose. They’ll change their appearance or style often, and constantly seem to be in search of something.

4. They gossip an awful lot.

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Since they don’t have many interesting perspectives to share with others, they gossip about other people’s lives instead. They may fixate on celebrities and share tantalizing tidbits they’ve heard or read about, or will imply things about others solely to get a reaction out of those around them.

5. They project their issues onto others.

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You’ve probably noticed that drama queens and kings often despise traits in others that they embody themselves. For instance, someone who never stops talking will condemn other people for being overly chatty, and a person who has low self-esteem about their lack of fitness will insult others for being overweight or physically weak.

6. If they have a good partner, they don’t value them.

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These people may have the most amazing partners or spouses in the world, but they’ll constantly find things about them to criticize. They’ll take them for granted and focus on traits that annoy them instead of appreciating everything they do. Then they’ll turn around and get jealous if they talk to anyone else.

7. They betray people’s secrets.

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They seem to find it particularly entertaining to share the kind of information that has the potential to do real damage in someone else’s life. If anyone shares a secret with them—such as an affair, unexpected pregnancy, and so on—then that becomes public domain info as soon as their back is turned.

8. They are morally inconsistent.

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They might sleep with someone’s partner or steal from their employer with absolutely no remorse, until they’re caught. Then they’re sorry, but they aren’t actually contrite about what they’ve done. Rather, they’re sorry that anyone found out, and they’ll try to gain sympathy from others by implying that they’re the wronged party in the situation.

9. They may display a perceived lack of intelligence or common sense.

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You may have noticed that those who thrive on drama are often in the lower percentile of human intelligence. Some may exhibit behaviors such as mouth breathing or staring vacantly at others, or they may simply behave in an incredibly juvenile, immature manner like someone half their age, or less.

10. They take unnecessary risks to create chaos.

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They might engage in risky behaviors because they seek sensory stimulation and emotional engagement. For example, they might enjoy the thrill of stealing things without getting caught, speeding through lights as they turn red, or having risky casual encounters so they can freak out about potential pregnancy.

11. They instantly form opinions based on little objective evidence.

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Instead of amassing information and then forming an opinion based on what they’ve learned, they jump to conclusions or make judgment calls about a person or situation immediately. One glance is all they need to determine that someone “thinks they’re better than them”, or that an endeavor isn’t worth their time.

12. They intentionally self-sabotage.

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They may keep putting off filing school paperwork until it’s too late and then wail that all the classes they wanted were full. Alternatively, they might play games with someone they’re dating, such as ignoring them to make that person “chase” them, and then cry when they lose interest.