12 Things You Do That Make You A Better Husband Than You Think

If you do these things, consider yourself a really great husband.

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When push comes to shove, you might be a better husband than you credit yourself for. Beyond grand gestures, it’s the little things you do every day that make you a great partner, even when you don’t realize it. Let’s look at some of the habits that truly count and why they’re so important.

1. You listen attentively.

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When your partner is talking, you genuinely take in every word, and that’s pretty amazing. Active listening involves fully engaging with your partner’s emotions and thoughts instead of just nodding along and waiting for your turn to speak. By doing so, you’re making them feel heard and understood. It does wonders for strengthening your connection because we all want to feel like someone’s listening to us.

2. You voice your appreciation out loud.

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Most people think that thanking your partner is just good manners, but it’s also a daily reminder that you notice the effort they put into making your shared life better. Whether you’re complimenting their cooking or acknowledging their strength in tough times, your clear appreciation goes a long way in fueling a loving and supportive marriage.

3. You make time for them.

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Time is non-refundable, and you use it with intention in your relationship by doing things such as going for a quick coffee date or an evening walk. The moments you make for each other are utterly priceless because they tell your partner they’re a priority to you, no matter how busy your schedules are. In other words, you show up for them regularly and make each second count.

4. You actively support their dreams.

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It doesn’t matter if you’re backing your partner’s career moves or simply cheering for their small victories; you need to support their goals. Essentially, you’re telling them, “I’m with you, for you.” Being their cheerleader, regardless of how big or small the arena is, can improve their confidence and fuel their motivation. You’ve got this down—you support their successes loudly and offer a shoulder when things don’t pan out.

5. You apologize sincerely when required.

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Saying sorry mends fences and rebuilds trust, especially if it’s heartfelt. Being truly apologetic softens the hardest blows and shows that you’re committed to improving yourself. Saying sorry also shows you value the relationship over your ego. Your apologies are genuine, and you follow them up with efforts to improve yourself or repair any damage done.

6. You show affection, regularly.

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A touch, a hug, a kiss—these are the small gestures that keep the warmth and intimacy alive in your relationship. They say, “I’m here, and I’m yours,” without you needing to say a single thing, and, if anything, they often speak louder than words. Physical affection keeps the connection alive, reminding both of you of the things that brought you together.

7. You are honest.

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Telling the truth can be tough, but dishonesty is far worse. You can’t build trust or understanding in your marriage without honest communication, and even though it isn’t always easy, you know it’s worth it. By being honest, you stop small issues from becoming big problems. You are open and truthful, and that’s more important than you might ever realize.

8. You encourage your partner to look after themselves.

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Encouraging your partner to indulge in self-care is a sign of how much you cherish their well-being. You understand that their happiness is your happiness, and when they’re at their best, your relationship is, too. You support them in taking time for themselves, such as a spa day or just some quiet time with a book. It’s good for their individuality and your relationship’s health.

9. You work on yourself.

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Similarly, you dedicate time to working on yourself, too, as it helps you grow on a personal level and is a gift to your partner. Self-improvement shows you’re committed to being your best self, and you endeavor to keep learning and evolving. When you grow, your relationship grows, too, because it brings new energy and ideas into your life together.

10. You keep the promises you make.

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You understand that a promise kept is the perfect way to maintain your trust. It’s one of the most straightforward signs that you’re reliable, dependable, and as good as your word. So, you stick to your commitments, no matter how small they might seem so your partner knows that they can count on you.

11. You are patient with your partner.

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Forget what you’ve heard, because patience doesn’t simply involve being able to wait but having a good attitude while you do so. You demonstrate patience in abundance, especially during those heated moments, which diffuses conflict and demonstrates respect for your partner. You stay calm and collected, even when it’s tough, because you know it leads to better, healthier outcomes.

12. You prove your commitment time and time again.

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Sticking together through the highs and lows is the best way to show you’re committed. You stick with your partner every single day, no matter the challenges you face together, and being so steadfast in your dedication is the backbone of your long-lasting relationship. You celebrate the good times, and buckle down during the tough ones. You’re a team, after all.