10 Reasons You Should Never Apologize For Being Yourself

Embracing authenticity isn’t something you should say sorry for.

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Increasingly, it may feel like no matter where you turn, everyone seems to look and act the same. It can be tempting to follow the status quo, but sacrificing your identity in order to fit in is not worth it in the long run. Embracing your true self will not only make you happier, but also improve other areas of your life. Here are ten compelling reasons why you should stop apologizing for being yourself.

1. There’s only one you.

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Your worth shouldn’t be defined by how well you blend in with the crowd. All your experiences, your perspectives, and your talents are what make you, well, you. By apologizing for being yourself, you diminish your individuality, and all the great things that you offer to the world because of it.

2. You shape your own narrative.

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The only person that should have control over your life is you, and no one else. If you feel like you’ve lost your power by trying to fit in, now is the time to take it back. By being unapologetically yourself, you become empowered to make decisions aligned with your values and define your personal story, once and for all.

3. Being yourself will attract the right kind of people.

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Not only will embracing who you are improve your quality of life, it will also positively impact the quality of relationships you’ll have with others. When you live authentically, you’ll attract people who value you and appreciate you for who you are. Relationships built on authenticity are also stronger because it helps to foster a deeper connection and greater trust between people.

4. Life is too short to please others.

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As much as we like to think that we have plenty of life to live, time really does fly. Unless you believe in reincarnation, you only have one life to live. Searching for others’ approval will only diminish your happiness in the long run, so don’t let people-pleasing behavior take away your spark.

5. Self-respect will increase, while self-doubt will decrease.

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When you constantly apologize for being yourself, it reinforces a self-depreciating mindset where you diminish your worth and your accomplishments. There is so much about yourself that you should take pride in. When you learn to appreciate your individuality, you will also learn to appreciate—and be proud of—yourself as a whole.

6. Authenticity boosts confidence.

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When you embrace yourself for who you really are, you start to develop a deep sense of confidence in multiple areas of your life. Not only will you be challenging yourself to get out of the “comfort zone” that society has set, you’ll realize that you’re capable of doing so much more than you thought.

7. Being true to yourself empowers others.

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If there’s one thing to know about authenticity, it’s that it is contagious. When people around you see you being your realest self—flaws and all—you’ll inspire others to follow in your footsteps. As more people become inspired to be themselves, it can create a more loving and accepting community around you.

8. By embracing who you are, you’ll learn more about yourself.

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One added bonus to staying true to yourself is that it could also become a journey of self-discovery. When you start to get comfortable with exploring your individuality, you also become open to working on your flaws and your insecurities, and you grow as a person because of it.

9. Fitting in can be stressful.

One thing to know about popularity is that it’s usually connected to the latest trends—which are constantly changing. Trying to keep up with these ever-changing fads, along with figuring out which ones will keep you in the “in crowd”, sounds exhausting. Why bother doing it in the first place?

10. It’s okay to fail every now and then.

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Learning how to live life by your own standards is not a linear process. There will be moments where you mess up, and that’s okay! Each time you stumble, you can use it as an opportunity to discover your strengths and weaknesses and to keep note of them during your journey towards self-improvement.