You’ll see these behaviors at the intersection between intelligence and low self-confidence.
Many people assume that super-intelligent people are self-confident due to their natural brilliance. In reality, some of the smartest people you’ll ever meet have crippling self-esteem issues. Keep an eye out for the 12 subconscious behaviors that follow, as they’ll give you some insights as to the confidence levels of those around you.
1. Apologizing when there’s no need to do so.
Most highly intelligent people have had experience in offending others unintentionally—sometimes simply by sharing a tidbit of information, thus “making” others feel stupid. As such, they often apologize unnecessarily to make themselves seem less threatening, and to undermine any potential offense with a foundation of submissive groveling.
2. Downplaying their achievements.
Since so many fiercely intelligent people are thoroughly mocked, derided, and competed with, most have learned to downplay their academic or intellectual achievements in order to avoid abuse. A perfect example of this would be a published author implying that their success was due to the publisher needing to make a quota.
3. Self-deprecation.
Many of the most intelligent people you’ll ever meet will put themselves down “for fun” on a regular basis. They might make fun of physical shortcomings, or will refer to themselves as nerds, losers, and so on. This is because they’ve been insulted so often by others that they pre-empt mockery by making fun of themselves first.
4. Making uncertain statements when speaking.
Instead of being assertive during conversations, they’ll pepper them with phrases such as “Does that make sense?” or start them with “I don’t know, but…”. This implies that they don’t have much confidence in themselves, and they’re leaving some leeway in case their contributions are criticized or turn out to be incorrect.
5. Difficulty accepting compliments.
Many intelligent people are uncomfortable accepting compliments about their intellect or intellectual achievement. A perfect example of this would be someone who’s complimented for having an article published, but brushes off the compliment by saying that it wasn’t a big deal, and was probably full of mistakes anyway.
6. Cluttered workspaces.
If someone is working at a desk that’s covered in trinkets, beverages, snacks, notebooks, and so on, there’s a solid chance they’re in a high IQ percentile. They keep everything they could possibly need within easy reach—like a dragon’s hoard—and know where everything is without having to look for it.
7. Remaining silent instead of risking ridicule.
Even if they’re complete experts in their field and know exactly what they’re talking about, they may remain silent in social or professional environments. They may have some spectacular insight or advice to share, but they’d rather stay quiet than run the risk of being mocked by those around them.
8. Risk avoidance.
Fiercely intelligent people tend to be overthinkers, and thus analyze all the possible ways that something could potentially go wrong. As a result, they’re often hesitant to take risks that could be potentially damaging, even if the risk is very small: they’d rather err on the side of boring safety and comfort.
9. Being “small” so as not to attract unwanted attention.
A lot of highly intelligent people are academically minded and introverted, and avoid being the center of attention, and that includes in work environments. If they grey themselves out and stay quiet, they may not be singled out to answer questions in a group setting, and by extension, potentially embarrass themselves.
10. Social anxiety.
The more intelligent a person is, the more overall awareness they have. Because of this, they’re hyper-aware of people’s subtle body language, and pick up on when someone is bored or annoyed with them. Intelligent people tend to be so worried about being disliked or judged that they’re paralyzed with anxiety about socializing at all.
11. Overthinking.
Their natural inclination towards perfectionism makes them overthink everything. As such, they might obsess so much about what to say to someone that they don’t say anything at all. Or, if they do speak up, they’ll analyze their words (and the other’s response) for decades after the interaction has taken place.
12. Leadership avoidance.
No matter how intelligent a person might be, if they lack self-confidence, they’re likely to be uncomfortable being in any kind of leadership role. Not only will they question their own capability, but they’ll also worry about not being taken seriously by their subordinates, or making an egregious error that’ll lead everyone to ruin.