Are you deliberately destroying your relationships?
Do you tend to start making bad decisions on purpose at a certain point in a relationship?
Maybe you start pushing your partner away the second you feel like you’re getting close.
If you’ve answered yes to these, there’s a good chance you have a problem with sabotaging your relationships.
Still unsure? Here are 10 more signs that indicate you definitely are.
1. You pick silly fights.
You might be so frustrated or anxious that you end up fighting over nothing! This can quickly become a regular habit and is your (unfair) way of letting your stress out on your partner.
2. You shut them out.
You might ignore them, take longer to get back to them, or avoid physical intimacy with them. Whatever it is, if you put walls up to keep them out, you’re sabotaging your relationship with them.
3. You try to make them jealous.
If you’re chatting to an ex or flirting with someone when you know it’ll make your partner uncomfortable, there’s a strong chance you’re doing it to subconsciously damage your relationship with them.
4. You cheat on them.
What easier way to end a relationship than by cheating on your partner? Whether you’re scared of them cheating on you first or you’re not ready to commit, sleeping with someone else is a sure-fire way to ruin things!
5. You belittle them.
Some people sabotage their relationship by making their partner feel bad about themselves. This is an unhealthy, toxic power play and is very unfair on the other person. You might insult them, make jokes about them, or suggest that they’re not good enough for you.
6. You find reasons/excuses to leave.
If you want to sabotage your relationship, you might make up reasons why it’s not working, lying to yourself (and others) to make it ‘easier’ to up and leave – even if none of it is true!
7. You end things regularly.
Maybe you’re constantly on and off with your partner – you like to keep them guessing, remind them who’s boss, and make them question your relationship all the time. Again, this is toxic behavior.
8. You refuse to commit.
If you cancel dates, refuse to meet their family, and regularly avoid any kind of commitment, you’re harming your relationship, either knowingly or not.
9. You gaslight them.
Again, this is very toxic. Gaslighting is essentially trying to make someone question what they feel. They might tell you you’ve hurt their feelings, and you’ll dismiss it and tell them they’re wrong and it’s all their fault.
10. You’re always dating.
If you’ve never been in a long-term relationship before and tend to serially date, it could be because you’re intentionally sabotaging every emotional connection you make.
