10 Behaviors That Make You A Very Difficult Person To Deal With

These things make you a difficult person to deal with.

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Do you struggle with relationships? Do you find that other people tend to distance themselves from you? Or do they tell you that you’re stubborn or difficult?

It could be that you do have some qualities that make you a difficult person to deal with.

And that’s alright! We all have our flaws. Once we’ve identified those flaws, we can take steps to improve. In doing so, you can improve the quality of your mind, life, and relationships.

What are some signs that you’re a difficult person to deal with?

1. You have a constant need to be right.

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There are few things more annoying than a person who won’t admit when they’re wrong. Essentially, refusing to admit you’re wrong shows others that you have no self-awareness, and if you do have self-awareness, that you don’t care about how others feel. It’s okay to admit when you’re wrong! It may be a struggle with how uncomfortable it can be, but it’s a normal, healthy thing to do. People will respect you more for it.

2. You are unwilling to compromise.

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All relationships require give and take. They require meeting in the middle. Many people have a hard time with that because compromise is often uncomfortable. Neither of you may be happy with the end result, but you accept it so you can move on. Still, you have to be willing to adapt to the needs and preferences of others. Their needs are important to them just as yours are important to you.

3. You have a negative attitude.

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Many people don’t want to deal with negativity in their personal lives. Yes, life is hard and there is plenty of negativity in the world. However, healthy people learn to create boundaries so they can deal with it on their terms. A negative attitude is a good way to find yourself outside of those boundaries. That’s not to say you need to be positive about everything. You don’t. But sometimes it’s better to just not talk about it or address it neutrally. Not every cloud has a silver lining and that’s okay.

4. You lack empathy.

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Empathy is the ability to consider or understand the feelings and perspectives of others. Many people make the mistake of thinking that they need to feel or understand where the other person is coming from to be empathetic. You don’t. Accepting another person’s thoughts and feelings is as simple as listening and not telling them they’re wrong. People who don’t feel accepted gravitate to people who are more accepting.

5. You are frequently hostile.

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Disagreements happen. It’s inevitable between creatures as emotional as humans. However, a lot of things aren’t worth fighting about. They’re so inconsequential that they could just be shrugged off. Still, some people feel the need to fight with others over issues minor or major. No one wants to be around an angry person all the time. No one wants to get roped into arguments and conflicts regularly.

6. You are too controlling.

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There are some who try to control everything and everyone going on around them. Many people call them micromanagers. Most people do not want to be micromanaged. They have their own needs, thoughts, desires, and ways of doing things. No one wants to deal with a tyrant in their everyday life. People need to feel free to do as they will at their own discretion.

7. You are not a good communicator.

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Communication skills are the foundation of every good relationship. That includes being able to listen without interrupting, allowing other people the space to speak, and paying attention when other people are talking. In casual conversation, everyone should have an opportunity to express themselves and contribute. People who don’t will often find that no one wants to talk to them anymore.

8. You are inflexible.

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Life is chaos. Things happen. Sometimes the best-laid plans get blown to bits because of unforeseen circumstances. Flexibility is an important skill that everyone needs. You need to be able to accommodate and change when things don’t go to plan. That could be something like changing a meet-up with a friend, or a willingness to do something outside of your comfort zone.

9. You have unrealistic expectations.

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Frustration and disappointment are the bedfellows of unrealistic standards, whether they are for yourself or others. Sometimes, the best you can hope for is for someone to do the best that they can. The outcome may not be what you envisioned, it may not even be what you want, but sometimes it’s what you have to accept. The better you know people and the more flexible you are, the easier it is to set expectations.

10. You shift blame onto others.

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It’s exhausting to listen to someone talk about how their issues are the fault of everyone else. Furthermore, it makes you look absolutely ridiculous. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone does dumb things from time to time. No one is immune to this because it’s just part of being human. Only unreasonable people who you probably shouldn’t be listening to in the first place would expect otherwise. You have to be able to own your mistakes.

Let’s be real.

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People can be quite forgiving when it comes to certain quirks of others. A little communication goes a long way. The major issues arise when those quirks turn into consistent problems that start to negatively affect others regularly.

If you always avoid blame, then you can’t be trusted to not point the finger at someone else. If you’re always negative or argumentative, you’re going to make other people feel bad.

Emotionally healthy people with good boundaries won’t put up with these behaviors for long because it will impact their peace of mind and happiness. These are behaviors that need to be worked on, for your own happiness and the health of your relationships.