Do you feel pressured to find love?
There is so much pressure on women to find a partner and settle down. It feels like there are clocks ticking all around us.
But there is a lot to be said for taking your time when it comes to love. Good things come to those who wait, right?
So much good can come your way when you ignore the pressure and stop rushing to find love.
Here are just 7 of the many reasons strong, successful, single women have stopped actively seeking out love, that could benefit you too.
1. They can focus on what makes them happy instead.
Much of being in a relationship is thinking about what someone else wants and needs.
Even when you’re just on the lookout for love and not in a relationship yet, you might notice you’re always monitoring what you’re doing, saying, or how you’re presenting yourself.
You’re trying to mold yourself to fit with other people’s expectations rather than just being you.
Taking love out of the equation gives you a chance to focus on what makes you happy. You aren’t worried about who you meet or what you look like to other people; instead, you’re living in the moment and learning to love yourself.
Take some time to think about why you want to be in a relationship so badly and see if there’s anything you can do for yourself to fill that void.
Your need to find love might be part of some larger self-discovery you’ve yet to make, and taking the time to understand your feelings could be exactly what you need to set yourself up for a more positive and fulfilling future.
Embrace your inner power. Spend your time pursuing things that make you happy rather than trying to be someone you think others expect you to be. Your happiness should be your number one priority, and you’ll learn just how much there is to life when you start living it for your own enjoyment.
2. They can build a solid foundation for a relationship.
Relationships take time to build, and rushing into them is rarely a good idea.
When you stop rushing love and ease the pressure on yourself to settle down, you’re giving yourself the time and freedom to look for a partner at a slower pace. This will help you to end up with a more suitable match.
It’s important to learn more about how you act in a relationship and think about what your boundaries are when inviting someone in who could change your life completely.
Not letting yourself get carried away with your emotions and trying to rush a relationship faster than it should go will help you build a solid foundation and properly get to know the person you want to spend your time with.
Dating out of desperation to find love could mean that you ignore or don’t see any red flags, and you might give up more than you’d planned to.
If you try to build a relationship on shaky foundations, it’s inevitably going to crumble later down the line.
You don’t want to put yourself through unnecessary heartbreak, and by taking things slowly before you make any moves, you’re giving yourself a chance to build something that will last.
3. They want to make sure they’ve found the right match.
It’s tricky trying to find the right partner. Even after you’ve fallen in love, people or circumstances change, and relationships don’t always work out.
We can’t predict whether a relationship is going to last, but you want to give yourself the best chance of success.
For this, you need to make sure you’re picking the right kind of person for the right reasons.
Taking your time looking for love gives you the space to evaluate what it is you want from a partner and be objective about whether you’re finding it in the people you meet.
Rushing yourself in the pursuit of love could mean that you keep going for the same type of person, not realizing that they seem to have the same flaws.
You’re not giving yourself time to think about what you need from a long-lasting partnership. Instead, you’re setting your bar too low and trying to make a relationship work that was doomed from the start.
Be picky about what you want from a partner and take the extra time to make sure that what you have with someone is right for you.
4. They aren’t wasting precious energy.
Dating is draining, especially when you don’t seem to be getting anywhere with it.
It takes energy and confidence to put yourself out there and present your best self when meeting new people. It can be exhausting and sap your self-confidence when you never seem to find the person you’re looking for.
By letting go of looking for love and thinking about enjoying yourself, you’re allowing time to recharge your social batteries. Instead of looking for a partner, you can put all that energy into other activities that will bring positive changes to your life.
It could be starting a new hobby, exercising more, working harder, spending more time with family and friends, or just focusing on self-care.
Choosing to invest your energy in yourself will give you time to nurture your happiness and confidence—and you’ll feel better equipped to face the world and return to the dating pool when you’re ready for it.
5. They are learning about themselves.
If you truly want to find love, then you must be yourself completely. You can’t expect to find the right match if you’re trying to be someone you think other people want to see.
When you’re used to pursuing a relationship, you can get stuck in the habit of acting or flirting in a certain way, dressing the same way, or talking about subjects you think someone will want to hear.
None of these tactics will help you find someone who wants to get to know you for who you are because you’re only showing them what you think they want to see.
Being happy with yourself and going out to have a good time are the best ways to attract the right person.
People are drawn to positivity and the energy you project. If you’re comfortable and secure in yourself, this will shine through and you’ll find someone who appreciates you for who you are, not what you’re trying to be.
6. They are not prepared to settle.
When meeting someone as soon as possible isn’t your priority, you give yourself the space to make sure you aren’t settling for second best.
When you’re in a rush, instead of holding out for what you really want, you’re much more likely to settle for something not so great.
If you keep pressuring yourself to find love, it’s hard to let go of a relationship you know isn’t right out of fear that you won’t find anything better.
Not settling for someone you know is good but not exactly what you’re looking for is a risk, but if you’re being true to yourself and want your relationship to last, you won’t compromise on what makes you happy.
Sometimes you need to give yourself time to realize that and work through it. When you withstand the pressure to settle with the first person you meet, you’ll stay true to finding the real, lasting kind of love you’re after.
7. They don’t come off as desperate.
People can sense when someone is desperate for a relationship, and they’ll either avoid you or take advantage.
When someone is desperate for something, it gives the impression of a lack of self-awareness and self-confidence.
You want to present the best version of yourself and attract people with your positive energy, rather than cause them to stay away because you’re too intense.
By making it obvious you’re looking for a relationship, you could also be setting yourself up for people to tell you what you want to hear so they can get something from you.
In addition, when you’re single-minded about meeting someone, you’ll stop getting to know people for who they are, because you’re measuring them up against your expectations for a partner before understanding them as an individual.
