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13 Things Unsuccessful People Almost Never Spend Their Time Doing (But You Should)

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Will you do the things that are necessary for success?

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Success doesn’t grow on trees. It takes effort and action—and lots of it. There are certain things you need to do, certain steps you must take if you are to progress along the path to any sort of worthwhile achievement. Unsuccessful people don’t do the following things, but you’ll definitely want to.

1. Charting goals.

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Unsuccessful people often float aimlessly because they overlook an important step—setting goals. Successful people, however, know that being clear in their aims can help them create a roadmap for working through the challenges of life. They’ll set ambitious targets while also revisiting them regularly. After all, how else can you make sure you’re on track? It’s a smart way to sculpt your future, one goal at a time.

2. Learning new things.

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Learning doesn’t stop when school does, especially for high achievers. For them, the classroom is all around, and every experience is a lesson, so they’re always working to improve their minds. Whether it’s through books or simply conversational wisdom, such a relentless pursuit of knowledge keeps the successful evolving and at the top of their game. Unsuccessful people aren’t curious about anything, so they inevitably fall behind.

3. Expanding their networks.

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When you network, you’re essentially planting seeds for future success. Unsuccessful people often underestimate the power of a robust network, while successful ones are always on the lookout to connect. They know that their next big opportunity may come from a new acquaintance. Beyond collecting contacts, networking helps them find potential growth opportunities, which can benefit both them and the new people they’re talking to.

4 Investing in relationships.

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Beyond networking, unsuccessful people know nothing about the value of strong personal and professional relationships. They don’t spend any time nurturing these bonds because they don’t see how these connections could be important. Successful people are always keen to bond more deeply with others. Whether it’s through a coffee meet-up to offer advice or an empathetic ear during tough times, high achievers work on improving their relationships over the long term.

5. Managing their time.

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If time is money, successful people are the best investors, and unsuccessful people are broke. Successful people manage their hours with precision and prioritize the tasks that maximize their productivity and success. Unfortunately, those who are less successful allow time to slip through their fingers. Mastering your minutes can mean the difference between mediocrity and meteoric success, so successful people use calendars and apps to keep themselves on point.

6. Learning from constructive criticism.

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Most unsuccessful people avoid feedback at all costs, while successful individuals chase after it. They understand that growth comes from critique and that our true potential comes from understanding other people’s insights. Unsuccessful people usually feel upset after hearing feedback because they see it as a reflection on themselves personally. Meanwhile, the high-flyers thrive on performance reviews and mentorship because they see each piece of advice as something that can propel them to greater heights.

7. Absorbing new information.

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The most that an unsuccessful person will read is the occasional headline or meme, but you’ll always find successful people with their noses in books, magazines, or online articles. Reading is their superpower. After all, it expands their minds and opens new horizons while also giving them the knowledge that keeps them ahead of the curve. Their reading lists are pretty diverse, too, covering everything from fiction to finance.

8. Planning their finances.

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Ignoring financial planning is a common mistake of the unsuccessful. They only seem to think about spending in the here and now, while those destined for success see financial management as a daily ritual. They track their spending wisely and plan for the future. Unsuccessful people don’t care about talking to financial advisors since they believe that enjoying simple pleasures in the present is more important.

9. Prioritizing self-care.

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It’s a myth that success comes at the cost of health. The truly successful know that self-care is a kind of achievement, so they invest in their well-being. They work hard to make sure they always perform at their best. Meanwhile, unsuccessful people know nothing about this. Regular workouts, balanced diets, and sufficient sleep? That’s just a nice idea for them.

10. Listening attentively to others.

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For the unsuccessful, listening is usually passive because they believe their own voices are more important. Successful individuals, however, know that active listening can help them understand things better and create stronger connections. They listen to understand, not just to respond, making everyone they interact with feel valued. An unsuccessful person is never completely present in conversations. Rather, they’re just waiting for their turn to speak.

11. Taking risks.

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Unsuccessful people often avoid risks because they prefer the safety of the well-known. They don’t view calculated risks as being worth taking. However, for successful people, the biggest rewards often come from what others might avoid, so they do their homework on it. They’ll weigh the pros and cons before making a move and aren’t afraid to step out of their comfort zones.

12. Volunteering their time.

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Volunteering seems like an unnecessary waste of time for the unsuccessful. Why bother giving back or connecting with the community when they can just focus on themselves? Even so, it’s a lot more impactful than they might realize. After all, successful people find great satisfaction in making a difference, and they understand that giving back is also a way to build a legacy.

13. Being patient.

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More often than not, being impatient is the direct cause of hasty and ill-advised decisions. That’s why successful people will work on their patience—they understand that many of life’s best opportunities need time to come to fruition. External pressures never rush them. Instead, they make more thoughtful decisions, which ultimately leads to better outcomes in their personal and professional lives.

About The Author

Arvyn has been writing for several years and has been an English teacher for half of those. He has a degree in American & Canadian Studies, along with other teaching qualifications. When he’s not writing, he’s traveling, or looking after his cats.